On todays episode of sharing my story….RELATIONSHIPS! After a divorce that ended after a 22 year relationship and dating for several years I'm sharing what men and women need in relationships.
MEN: if you’re tired of hearing her bitch and nag, you need to fill her cup up. What does that mean? That means you need to pour into her. She is constantly giving to others, taking care of everyone and everything, she’s mentally and physically drained, especially if there’s young kids.
Sit down and talk to her, let her vent. Plan a date night and get her out of the house. Show her off! Bring home flowers just because. If you know she’s had a bad day order pizza and snuggle the fuqq out of her. You have to actually give time, energy, attention and maybe even affection if that’s what she craves. If you do these things, you’ll fill her cup up and she will pour back into yours. I promise you that.
Next….fkn communicate. It’s very easy.
If you’re thinking about her? Tell her.
If you miss her…tell her!
COMMUNICATION is the key to every solid relationship and it’s nice to hear.
If you have a good genuine woman who actually loves and supports you….You also might have to open up. We know y’all deal with stress in your head and on your own. Most women, who are worth a shit, want to help. Whether it’s just to listen to you vent, help solve the problem or simply be there for you. Those women who see you stressed, who don’t ask what’s wrong and don’t want to do the things above, they truly don’t give a shit about you and are the women who NEED you and don’t WANT you. Understand the difference.
WOMEN: Be his peace. If he shuts down when he’s stressed, give him that space. Communicate openly you know he’s going through some stuff, you’re giving him space to navigate it and you’re there when he’s ready to finally open up.
If he continues to shut you out, you’re telling him you’re there and your feelings are getting hurt, walk away because it will get worse. Men change for the woman they don’t want to lose. Take it from me sis, he’s not it. There’s someone out there who will love you, grow and build with you and doesn’t want to lose you. That’s the man we want. We won’t have to tell him how to love us, he will just do it. That man won’t belittle you, treat you like shit and won’t make you beg for attention or time. He will give it freely. “If a man wants to, he will”. It’s as simple as that.
I’m finding out, men actually enjoy home cooked meals, especially if he’s been single for awhile. It doesn’t have to be a 5 course meal, it could be something as easy as BLT’s or throw something in the slow cooker. It gives them something to look forward to coming home to.
At the end of the day, it’s about balancing one another out. When he’s having a bad day, pick him up. When she’s having a bad day, pick her up. It’s also about communication. If you can’t communicate, it’s never going to work. It’s in the toughest moments you realize someone’s true colors. You can either let it tear you apart or build and strengthen your relationship. It’s up to you how you choose to move!
